Today I called to find out if I needed to dispute a credit card charge for my brother's recent hotel stay (and leeching indecent) in Georgia. He came over from Alabama to basically get more money from my Mom. He had her withdraw all of the funds from three accounts at her bank and then close them (for what reason, I don't know). So that is what prompted us to go to the assisted living place and talk to my Mom the other night and ask her about why her bank accounts were closed.
I would have needed to dispute the credit card charge to the hotel if my brother had signed it, since he's not on the credit card account. But I talked to the woman who works at the hotel desk and she said my brother took the card out and paid the $112.00 but he had his "grandmother" sign for it. It's actually his mother but she is elderly, so maybe the woman thought it was his grandmother.
If he had signed the charge slip, we would have gone after him for the money. As it is, he will have to pay her styling bills if she wants to get her hair and nails done. That's what I told the caretaker at the assisted living place where she lives. That's also where my mom's salon is. She doesn't access her money so she wouldn't get money from anywhere else but Brian to pay her salon bill.
They continue to do things that are frustrating. He wrote some letters to me and he sent them to my Mom and not me. In the letters, he said he was going to mail me a copy. Then when he found out she lives where she does, he was going to send me a more forceful & hideous letter. The letters were slanderous; they were filled with malicious things. My brother said that he no longer considered me his sister, nor should I be considered my mother's daughter. He thought a lot about the things he said, it was obvious.
My husband always says not to put things down in writing; it can come back to bite you later and it is clear proof that something was stated. He's right and it can be a mistake - a regrettable one.
He wrote a bunch of dumb stuff in his letters and he lied too. He used obviously excessive terms and he was downright rude throughout. The letters made one thing clear - we don't want anything more to do with him. This is how I've felt for a long time but I think now my husband is getting how I felt before; Brian is not worth our time or anything else. Josh always wanted to prevent any family difficulty by evicting Brian from the house where he is just a tenant, (he's just a tenant since my Mother and father's name are on the mortgage; my dad is dead and my mom is in assisted living, with me as her legal guardian and conservator).
The other night it was fun cuz my husband took me to the Cavalia horse show. It was amazing and well worth the money. He took me out to dinner beforehand and I was loving it. I had a beer and then a Manhattan, which rocked. We left the place and I was buzzin'. I wanted to get another drink and I thought that because we were on a date too it would be cool. Although he said that no I couldn't because I had just had a beer and another drink so I should be fine.
There was a cheesecake restaurant with a bar and I thought it would be a great place to hang out until the show started, an hour away. Alas, it did not work out so my drink faded into oblivion while we sat and waited for the place to open so we could go into the show. It was enjoyable and a great show. It was very fun to hang out with my husband and be on a date. We don't do that often enough and we really should.
Now we just keep going with the same expectation as before; my Mom and Brian will continue their deceptive and awful behavior and we'll just deal.
S.L.M. 1.8.10 @ 5:29 PM
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