Being a Lady or a Woman; To-Do List

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• Allow others to speak when it is their turn; everyone likes a good listener
  
  
• Apologize whenever necessary. It doesn't make you weak
  
  
• Shave your armpits and legs daily
  
  
• Swallow your pride and fix things, promptly, if you encounter a problem with friends, family, in public, or with others - it can go a long way
  
  
• Address those older than you with respect. You do not have to like them but this is a way to show respect in general
  
  
• Wear sufficient deodorant/antiperspirant, applied to clean skin
  
  
• Regularly wear even basic skin makeup (Bare Minerals bisque and/or your color foundation is great - it's natural and is even safe to sleep in) - if nothing else, makeup-wise
  
  
• Always keep clean fingernails (well trimmed, freshly painted or cleanly unpainted, manicured - you can do this yourself, it doesn't have to be paid for) and never bite them.
  -Regularly repair worn, chipped, half-on-half-off polish.
  -Use fingernail clippers to get rid of hang nails or torn skin; don't pick at it or put your fingers in your mouth.
  
  

• Shower or bathe daily (this should go without saying but is a must)
  
  
• Do your hair every day (style it), even if it means wearing a ponytail - which should look neatly done and styled
  
  
• Wear perfume sparingly (you should not overwhelm anyone)
  
  
• Mascara is a nice touch for any female, but no makeup should be overdone
  
  
• Sit like a lady in public places. This is most becoming in a real lady or woman
  
  
• Avoid foul language, period; it is not cool, nice or admirable.
  -It's OK to walk away from people that do not speak in a way you approve.
  -If you don't like degrading jokes, stay away (this includes email)
  
  
• Do not over-drink, ever. If you choose to imbibe, do so reasonably (you know your limits and if you don't, you should). This is just safe for one thing and better for your body
  
  
• Avoid drug use. If you take medication, do so reasonably
  
  
• Speak well of others, especially your husband or boyfriend. Speak well of family, including your mother - who caused your existence
  
  
• If you have children, do your best to be a good mother. Think of how you can better your child's life; try making life better than yours may have been, in even small ways
  
  
• If you have children, really try not to argue in front of them - it changes who they are
  
  
• Wash your hands regularly and especially after using the restroom
  
  
• Wear some simple and appropriate jewelry if
  -you are comfortable with jewelry
  -and it matches your clothing style
  
  
• Dress nicely and appropriately for your body type, not wearing inappropriate clothing for an occasion. If you are not sure, ask for someone's advice
  
  
• Don't brag; wherever there is a chance, credit others for accomplishments
  
  
• Avoid gossip. No one likes a gossip (think of how it feels if you switch things around)
  
  
• Be a good friend. Maintain friendships with care, apologize when needed, get over stuff, stay in touch, show love
  
  
• Make an effort not to complain; no one needs to hear a complainer
  
  
• Be careful with money (a difficult thing, but it will really "pay off")
  
  
• Avoid belching and cutting loose bodily in public places, if you can
  
  
• Submissiveness is obedience even if you don't understand. Sometimes something might not make sense at the time, but stepping down and giving in, instead of the alternative, is always respectable. (The true meaning of submissiveness is all but missing today - worldwide)
  
  
• Try not to forward emails that are not tasteful or are just plain annoying. You have the power to stop it
  
  
• Honesty is the best, sometimes hardest, policy
  
  
• Try to smile regularly - it's great. So is laughter
  
  
• Do not answer your cell phone or talk on it when you should be speaking to someone else (banks, drive-thru locations, retail shops, quiet locations, in front of people, etc.) If you must take a call, be prompt and discreet and get back with the person who is in front of you
  
  
• Be proud of your accomplishments and try to do a good job at work, if you work. (If you don't work outside the home, working at home is work too)
  
  
• Wear a skin-softening cream, oil or lotion to keep your skin soft and healthy.
  -It could smell light but not overwhelming.
  -Added plus: who knows, you may become known to others by a signature scent and create memories that last forever.
  -Sunscreen in place of lotion each day protects your skin, softens it, and smells nice as well.
  
  
• Always send thank-you cards to express appreciation. This is almost a dying tradition
  
  
• Conduct yourself in a kind way with others, even if you think no one is watching
  
  
• Be dependable; others should always know they can count on you
  
  
• Buy small gifts for others every now and then (flowers, something simple, even something you make yourself is touching to other people)
  

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Maintaining a close version of this, and similar conduct as this, will help you to feel better and allow you to acquire respect from others.

S.L.M.
8.22.08 @ 7:22