My brother-in-law believes that it is ok to flirt. I do not agree with this thinking. When we are at religious services, he is always looking at his wife's sister. I do not like to see this happening because he is supposed to have the same beliefs as I do, where it is wrong to continue looking at a woman so as to desire her. This is especially so since the woman is his wife's sister.
My sister-in-law (married to him) never argues or shows distrust, dislike or a personality problem in regards to him. That is respectful, to say the least, and difficult to understand, especially given today's statistics in marriage.
This guy has had problems meeting people online, at least one girl. I talked to someone he worked with and he used to just ogle women and whistle at them. He has been married 15 years and his wife is completely loyal and very pretty. Why he feels the need to look around, flirt, cat-call or anything is beyond me and very wrong. Flirting is just plain wrong; it is hurtful and misleading. Where would he ever expect to go with it, especially since he is married?
A few years ago, his wife's sister got interested in another man outside of her marriage and during that time, my brother-in-law was also acting like he was straying. I went outside at one family gathering and he and her were outside, him with his arms around her affectionately. It looked like she should be his wife instead of his sister-in-law. I cannot imagine the mate of either one of them approving of the way they were conducting themselves.
I am not excusing myself in any way (I do not flirt) but I think that people can make mistakes. It is just sad to see this guy repeatedly eying his sister-in-law and it's worse cuz they live right next door to each other. Trust always comes into question when people conduct themselves this way in a marriage.
Flirting even when you are not married can be dangerous and hurt other people. I just think it is sad that someone would feel like it is ok to do this as a Christian when the Bible has strict explanations regarding anything outside of the marriage of two people.
Sometimes it gets to me so I just wanted to write about it tonight.
S.L.M.
8.22.08 @ 6:51
My sister-in-law (married to him) never argues or shows distrust, dislike or a personality problem in regards to him. That is respectful, to say the least, and difficult to understand, especially given today's statistics in marriage.
This guy has had problems meeting people online, at least one girl. I talked to someone he worked with and he used to just ogle women and whistle at them. He has been married 15 years and his wife is completely loyal and very pretty. Why he feels the need to look around, flirt, cat-call or anything is beyond me and very wrong. Flirting is just plain wrong; it is hurtful and misleading. Where would he ever expect to go with it, especially since he is married?
A few years ago, his wife's sister got interested in another man outside of her marriage and during that time, my brother-in-law was also acting like he was straying. I went outside at one family gathering and he and her were outside, him with his arms around her affectionately. It looked like she should be his wife instead of his sister-in-law. I cannot imagine the mate of either one of them approving of the way they were conducting themselves.
I am not excusing myself in any way (I do not flirt) but I think that people can make mistakes. It is just sad to see this guy repeatedly eying his sister-in-law and it's worse cuz they live right next door to each other. Trust always comes into question when people conduct themselves this way in a marriage.
Flirting even when you are not married can be dangerous and hurt other people. I just think it is sad that someone would feel like it is ok to do this as a Christian when the Bible has strict explanations regarding anything outside of the marriage of two people.
Sometimes it gets to me so I just wanted to write about it tonight.
S.L.M.
8.22.08 @ 6:51
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